Sugar Dating Experience

[Massivo]

I always thought that site was scam

It is. I have been on it for about 3 months and spent around $150 on credits. As I recall, I bought 100 credits twice.

There were one or two people I met off the site...I can't remember exactly...Definitely one person who turned out to be an SP. Cute but we didn't vibe.

After that I sent out a bunch of messages but very rarely did anyone respond. In my view, the site is filled with a bunch of fake profiles and bots.

Now that I haven't been actively messaging anyone, I keep getting messages from women. They're just designed to make you use up your credits.

Seeking is a much better site but it's fairly expensive. Roughly $150/month.

My two cents...

 

[400DC]

Seeking is a much better site but it's fairly expensive. Roughly $150/month.

My two cents...

If seeking sends out email for discount . Hold on to it . A 25% off link from 6 months ago works . Still expensive though . I did make use of a 33 % off discount via email. 15% off pop up is common

 

[Runkle]

Haven’t seen those pop-ups in a minute. Although, I think I did get an email about a subscription increase that is coming soon.

 

[RobI]

Question about Sugar Daddy Meet site

I have looked at the site and the only geographic option seems to be "Ontario". I don't live in Toronto and would like to be able to be more specific to my area.
Does anyone know if there is an advanced search??

You need the paid account to search at the City level. Mind you, if you're in Toronto/GTA, most of the girls are going to be easy to find, with a few Ottawa, Hamilton and Niagara-region girls mixed in. Only makes to send to get a paid account if there's some girls you actually want to message. What area are you looking in? I've met some girls in the Niagara area and out near Kitchener.

 

[RobI]

It is. I have been on it for about 3 months and spent around $150 on credits. As I recall, I bought 100 credits twice.

There were one or two people I met off the site...I can't remember exactly...Definitely one person who turned out to be an SP. Cute but we didn't vibe.

...

There are a lot of SP on these sites for sure, I've seen a few Seduction girls on SDM/Seeking.

 

[Hipjdog]

Yeah, I've seen a few SP's that a saw back in the day appear on Seeking years later.

 

[Ravana]

What's the best advice around an opening line on SA or SB? Do you just lay it all out on the table up front that you're looking for a connection/mutually beneficial arrangement? Or do you need to be more subtle and build to it?

 

[Hipjdog]

What's the best advice around an opening line on SA or SB? Do you just lay it all out on the table up front that you're looking for a connection/mutually beneficial arrangement? Or do you need to be more subtle and build to it?

In my personal experience, I usually start a conversation in the same way I might on Bumble or Hinge. Notice something from her profile and ask her about it.
ex: "Hi, Sara! I'm Tom. I see you like tennis...have you been able to play much this summer?"

After a few exchanges that way I usually ask what her experience with this site is and what she's looking for. If you have a good rapport you
can then move to telegram or just regular texting and set up a date.

 

[GeeBee]

You need the paid account to search at the City level. Mind you, if you're in Toronto/GTA, most of the girls are going to be easy to find, with a few Ottawa, Hamilton and Niagara-region girls mixed in. Only makes to send to get a paid account if there's some girls you actually want to message. What area are you looking in? I've met some girls in the Niagara area and out near Kitchener.

If you’re in or near a university town, and looking for someone in the early 20’s age bracket, you may want to hold off on paying for the Seeking membership until school starts again. Girls who live elsewhere in the summer may reactivate a profile or create a new one once they get back and want a better source of income during the school year than a shitty server job. Keep an eye out and get most of September for your monthly $$

 

[Hipjdog]

It is something you can waste an enormous amount of time on, yes. I just go through the girls and favour the ones I like
and then message them. A bunch of them won't write back. Others will write back but the way they are responding feels
hallow and I end it there. You will find those gems, though, who write you back and are excited to have a real conversation
and actually meet soon. Those are the girls you want to focus on. They are out there.

 

[Hipjdog]

Just had a pretty bizarre "date".

Very cute 18 year old Asian in Toronto. Breezed through the intro steps and agreed to meet the same day
even though she had to take the subway over an hour. I was doubtful she would show up but she actually did.
We agreed on 300 on WhatsApp and I mentioned a physical element, which she seemed ok with.

Really cute in person. Naive student. We had bubble tea. The conversation was slightly awkward but mostly ok.
Asked her to go to my place and she agreed.

Once at my place it was clear she wasn't ready to get physical so we did not. Ended up just watching Netflix
on the couch. She said she wasn't ready to get physical yet. I said that is obviously ok and her choice, but I
can't offer the gift. She understood and left.

So she travelled over an hour to meet a stranger, get a free bubble tea and watch Netflix on his couch. I bought
2 bubble tea's and basically had blue balls in my apartment pretending to watch Netflix.

Not sure how is this was useful or productive for anyone. Seeing SP's is so much more straight forward, jeez.

 

[dchoye]

have to stop assume that all SB are going to act like escorts
Some might be new and might have cold feet.
It is encouraging she came over and spend time with you.
Maybe give her another chance at later date

 

[RobI]

It is something you can waste an enormous amount of time on, yes. I just go through the girls and favour the ones I like
and then message them. A bunch of them won't write back. Others will write back but the way they are responding feels
hallow and I end it there. You will find those gems, though, who write you back and are excited to have a real conversation
and actually meet soon. Those are the girls you want to focus on. They are out there.

Yeah, it's definitely a lot more work than escorts, but you do eventually learn how to read the signs who's DTF and who's just trying something they read about on the internet. One thing you could ask is if they'd be open to something like a blow-job or hand-job if they don't feel comfortable with full sex.

 

[RobI]

If you’re in or near a university town, and looking for someone in the early 20’s age bracket, you may want to hold off on paying for the Seeking membership until school starts again. Girls who live elsewhere in the summer may reactivate a profile or create a new one once they get back and want a better source of income during the school year than a shitty server job. Keep an eye out and get most of September for your monthly $$

That's for sure, I think you'll start seeing an uptick later in August as most students start moving back before September. I've definitely noticed a bunch of new faces on SDM this weekend and they seem to be more responsive to messages. Be careful, I had one who seemed too eager to meet up this weekend, possibly due to pro-vibes or something else.

 

[cocoaboy89]

Her expectations are not your obligations.

My only obligation is to honour the allowance that we have agreed upon.

Having said that, I've done flowers, jewelry, vacations etc. But that only happens when she has enhanced my existence and makes me feel special. I give extra because I want to and to show my appreciation, not because she thinks she deserves it.

FYI, I have met some beautiful and exceptionally hot women. My latest meet was a Nigerian girl, bordering on BBW with ginourmous tits, was horny as hell and squirted. At the end of the evening she did not ask for any money. I'm seeing her again next Friday. I'm short, old and chubby so a lot depends on your game and not necessarily your wallet.

Would love the details of the Nigerian lady if you could kindly share in a dm. Thanks

 

[walk]

Personally I'd find this kind of date as a green flag, but it depends what your're looking for. Her hesitancy in getting physical suggests to me that she's not very experienced and doesn't just get it on with everyone she meets in person. It also sounds like she needs a certain comfort level with the person before she gets physical. If she's willing to get together again despite justifiably not getting the gift on the first date, I would try again. Actually, I'd be willing for date two to not go "all the way" if there was at least some escalation, and seeing if it happens on date three. In my opinion, there's the potential here for some kind of semi-exclusive or exclusive arrangement which is what I prefer, and is worth putting the work into. On the other hand, if you're looking for a sure thing I can totally understand why the date would have been frustrating for you, and SPs are certainly more straightforward in that regard.

Just had a pretty bizarre "date".

Very cute 18 year old Asian in Toronto. Breezed through the intro steps and agreed to meet the same day
even though she had to take the subway over an hour. I was doubtful she would show up but she actually did.
We agreed on 300 on WhatsApp and I mentioned a physical element, which she seemed ok with.

Really cute in person. Naive student. We had bubble tea. The conversation was slightly awkward but mostly ok.
Asked her to go to my place and she agreed.

Once at my place it was clear she wasn't ready to get physical so we did not. Ended up just watching Netflix
on the couch. She said she wasn't ready to get physical yet. I said that is obviously ok and her choice, but I
can't offer the gift. She understood and left.

So she travelled over an hour to meet a stranger, get a free bubble tea and watch Netflix on his couch. I bought
2 bubble tea's and basically had blue balls in my apartment pretending to watch Netflix.

Not sure how is this was useful or productive for anyone. Seeing SP's is so much more straight forward, jeez.

 

[lomotil]

Just had a pretty bizarre "date".

Very cute 18 year old Asian in Toronto. Breezed through the intro steps and agreed to meet the same day
even though she had to take the subway over an hour. I was doubtful she would show up but she actually did.
We agreed on 300 on WhatsApp and I mentioned a physical element, which she seemed ok with.

Really cute in person. Naive student. We had bubble tea. The conversation was slightly awkward but mostly ok.
Asked her to go to my place and she agreed.

Once at my place it was clear she wasn't ready to get physical so we did not. Ended up just watching Netflix
on the couch. She said she wasn't ready to get physical yet. I said that is obviously ok and her choice, but I
can't offer the gift. She understood and left.

So she travelled over an hour to meet a stranger, get a free bubble tea and watch Netflix on his couch. I bought
2 bubble tea's and basically had blue balls in my apartment pretending to watch Netflix.

Not sure how is this was useful or productive for anyone. Seeing SP's is so much more straight forward, jeez.

You paid her $300 to watch a movie? Are you seeing her again ?

 

[keyakizaka46fan]

Do you think a Rent a Girlfriend service like in Japan would be successful in Toronto?
Rates in Japan can be as low as $60/h, of course you'd still have to pay for food and drinks but nothing as exorbitant as an SB would charge.
There is explicitly 0% chance for it to turn physical (some girls don't even allow holding hands), and the main service is emotional labor. Many guys use it just to feel more comfortable around women, develop confidence, get dating advice, practice social skills, it's practically cheap therapy. The girl will also take the lead if you're socially awkward instead of expecting princess treatment.

 

[Hipjdog]

You paid her $300 to watch a movie? Are you seeing her again ?

To be clear I didn't pay her anything other than covering the cost of her drink.

 

[Hipjdog]

Personally I'd find this kind of date as a green flag, but it depends what your're looking for. Her hesitancy in getting physical suggests to me that she's not very experienced and doesn't just get it on with everyone she meets in person. It also sounds like she needs a certain comfort level with the person before she gets physical. If she's willing to get together again despite justifiably not getting the gift on the first date, I would try again. Actually, I'd be willing for date two to not go "all the way" if there was at least some escalation, and seeing if it happens on date three. In my opinion, there's the potential here for some kind of semi-exclusive or exclusive arrangement which is what I prefer, and is worth putting the work into. On the other hand, if you're looking for a sure thing I can totally understand why the date would have been frustrating for you, and SPs are certainly more straightforward in that regard.

Yeah, I hear what you're saying.

It's possible with this girl had we gone on a few more platonic dates things would have escalated, but that
felt like far from a guarantee.

I find the lack of clarity with these dates frustrating. If you're incredibly blunt you risk scaring the girl off.
If you are too sheepish you find yourself paying hundreds of dollars for platonic "dates". I've tried to make
it clear in my text messages with the girl what I want without being crass. I guess some girls don't quite
get the message.