Why do clients want to change Sps ?
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Moet said:Men aren't all to blame as I know women just like that aswell...doesn't mean its right...we all know in time we will bloom into mature adults (well maybe only a few of us) LOL
I hope I don't get those type of clients when I start on the 15th...
well noones special in this biz we all get winners!
Are you leaving dancing to be an escort ?
I rather be a dancer anyday but im not 20 anymore lol im almost 30 ...but i look younger thank god but its not easy to do what dancers do ....i give them lots of credit getting on that stage for all ..dancers are awesome !Anyways good luck to you moet ,which ever field you start .I dont blame men ,i blame myself for not letting my regular go sooner when its know obvious he fell to hard .Regulars only cause guys to get emotionaly attached and hurt in the long run .After all we are human .So i hope he finds someone new .
Alexis696969 said:
LOL I hear ya!
No I'm going to be getting into feature dancing with Amara/Ashley Tyler's help....I've been wanting to get into sp'ing for awhile just been chicken but I have my set date now and we shall see how things go...Hey it might not be for me...but I'm the "Try everything once, if you don't like it then stop" Type of girl!
I remember the first time I went on stage HAHAHA oohh my goodness I was shacking like a canadian leaf...
Moet said:
I think you will do awesome as a feature !!!
you have a great attitude .not to mention ...your the first girl ive seen on here with the same sexy big lips LOL ...you go girl you will do well whatever you choose ...........So i wish ya luck in both !!!!
Hey Moet - let me know when the set date is...
Hi Sweetie,
Did I read that right - you are going to try SP???
If so let me know - with your looks and friendly attitude you'll be #1 - you're already a dancing star...but I am jealous of Amara lol
Hi Sweetie,
Did I read that right - you are going to try SP???
If so let me know - with your looks and friendly attitude you'll be #1 - you're already a dancing star...but I am jealous of Amara lol
I just started reading this thread (it's not anything like I thought it would be) and I have to agree with you 100%.tboy said:
I haven't read the rest of the responses, however, I fail to see what the original poster is getting so upset about.
The sex industry is not a long term career and whether any of us like it or not, generally, society does not approve. At best society tolerates and turns its head in sad acceptance of those who sell and those who buy. Rightly or wrongly, that's the way that it is.
This guy, whoever he is, thinks highly enough to pay for your University Education. In my opinion, the guy should get a medal. He obviously thinks highly of you and is offering you an opportunity to grow and move beyond selling your body.
Frankly, Even if I had a million dollars in the bank, I doubt I'd make a similar offer if I was in a similar situation, so, I would suggest that the original poster re-evaluate this guy's kindness (assuming of course that he is truly noble and doesn't want to keep her as his private mistress.)
Ok, this changes things.Alexis696969 said:
If he had said, "Quit the biz, INCLUDING ME, and I will pay for your education while you work some real job (not crappy by the way), then I would admire him.
Well, my advice to you would be pay for your own tuition and sort the rest out yourself.
Alexis696969 said:
Actually it sounds like you are both selfish , you don't want to give up what you do and neither does he. The only difference is he is paying , personally if I was him I wouldn't bother . Maybe he thinks he is trying to help you but you obviously don't care so just tell him NO DEAL . since he is paying he can set terms , you on the other hand have the freedom to say no.
booboobear said:
I respect all your opinions whether i agree or not and vice versa and I thank you all for your input .......If its selfish to continue to see a man who wants a regular service ...then i guess its not healthy to have regulars emotionaly for the client ........Lastly when he made the offer to see him exclusively .with the ultimatum i quit seeing other guys .......I inreturn said I will still see him as a regular and pay the intution myself so i still have my freedom to see other people ......and this is what you and some others have judged me as being selfish including him ....he wanted it his way or nothing .....I chose freedom
Moet,
Good luck on your journey to being an Sp. Many anxiously await that date.
Alexis...grow up. You had someone offer you what he felt was a wonderful opportunity.
It wasn't, but it was offered in the best intention. And, we have not heard His side of the story.
To have someone offer you such a deal may not be as controlling as you think. He is simply offering to pay your education fees.
He can't monitor what you do. You are free to do what you please. He knows that.
Why would he ask to see you, well he has not asked that it be free, so he's still continuing on the same path. He pays.
I really think you need to accurately portray his initial offering more than HE WANTS TO CONTROL ME...I don't think that was it.
Interesting thread none the less.
Good luck on your journey to being an Sp. Many anxiously await that date.
Alexis...grow up. You had someone offer you what he felt was a wonderful opportunity.
It wasn't, but it was offered in the best intention. And, we have not heard His side of the story.
To have someone offer you such a deal may not be as controlling as you think. He is simply offering to pay your education fees.
He can't monitor what you do. You are free to do what you please. He knows that.
Why would he ask to see you, well he has not asked that it be free, so he's still continuing on the same path. He pays.
I really think you need to accurately portray his initial offering more than HE WANTS TO CONTROL ME...I don't think that was it.
Interesting thread none the less.
MarkII said:
you sound like my Dad
LOL listen when someone says 'you cannot see other guys but i can see who i wish and if you do get caught seeing another guy the deal is off ' Where does that statement say i have freedom .god forbid the paperboy talks to me i might start school and have the offer tossed .If he truly cared ,he sure doesnt show it .If he really thinks i deserve better ,then why does he still want me to feel like an escort .He loves me being an escort thats why ! There nothing wrong with me telling him that i will pay for my intution myself ....am i bad person cause i dont take hand outs with conditions that im not convinced where is intent lies since its now a beck and call offer ?!
I think that's the key, it's a one way street!! That's assuming he is seeing SPs, if it's just "women he knows" that might put a different complexion on it!! Is this guy married??Alexis696969 said:you sound like my Dad
listen when someone says 'you cannot see other guys but i can see who i wish and if you do get caught seeing another guy the deal is off ' Where does that statement say i have freedom .god forbid the paperboy talks to me i might start school and have the offer tossed .If he truly cared ,he sure doesnt show it .If he really thinks i deserve better ,then why does he still want me to feel like an escort .He loves me being an escort thats why ! There nothing wrong with me telling him that i will pay for my intution myself ....am i bad person cause i dont take hand outs with conditions that im not convinced where is intent lies since its now a beck and call offer ?!
JohnC said:
I dont want to give an answer on his marital status ....incase he lives separate lives LOL but he is not shy to say he loves sps mps and loves dancers too
We all live seperate lives believe me, and sometimes more than 2!! If he is really so keen on other SPs etc what makes you so special, and I'm asking that in a nice way, not a nasty one!!Alexis696969 said:
JohnC said:
LMAO
so true ... well I might come across as an agressive chick lol but i sure dont think im special ,different maybe ,but not specialHow I wonder. Sounds interesting!!Alexis696969 said:LMAO
It's not selfish. I don't know why ppl are reacting this way. Maybe because in your first post you came across a little harsh. In delivering an ultimatum he stepped over the line and cutting him off is right. All my posts above were just to say don't do it in a mean spirited way because it's easy to imagine in this situation how someone can get to that point. Recognizing human weakness for what it is, and treating it kindly, does not mean that you have to give up on what's right for you. Just do it as politely and nicely as you can, but do it firmly.Alexis696969 said:
It's not only the right choice for you, in the long run, for him too.
I have not read this whole thread and therefore apologize if this has been posted previously.
This an item I found on another board. I have some reservations about it but will see what others think.
This is a story told by an interviewer about " What can happen when you fall in love with a client or he falls in love with you "
She lay in bed in the fetal position in the mental ward of a hospital which has now become what she would call her home . It was hard to believe this was the same person I had just met and interviewed a few short months before When we first met I found her to be a happy perky lady with loads of self esteem and confidence, with very few hang ups and issues to overcome . She attributed her success in her business and personal life to a man who once paid her to have sex with him . Yes she was an escort and he was her client and they fell deeply in love or so she thought ?
They met at a sex industry function and felt an immediate attraction to eachother and exchanged contact information so that they could hook up . To her surprise he began emailing her regularly always very complimentary with lots of hugs and kisses attached . Flattered she told me she would always reply back to him .The emails continued but he wanted more communication between them and asked if he could meet her in a chat room where they could talk in private and sometimes for hours on end . Soon that didnt seem enough and phone numbers were exchanged and shortly after that they had what appeared to be there first date . He arrived bearing gifts , she said this was something that was unusual on a first date but did happen on occasion . She kissed him on the cheek to thank him for being so thoughtful . Little did either of them know this date would change them both forever with many more escort dates to follow and many non paying dates when she retired to be with him .
As time went by she realized that in order to hold on to him she would need to give up the escorting and there was nothing she wanted more then him so she retired to please him . This sacrifice caused huge financial change for her and her children and the demise of what seemed to be a perfect relationship between the two of them . She now had to learn to live and raise her family on a very limited budget with no help from him . They agreed in order for it to work they would both have to be exclusive to eachother which meant he would have give up this hobby as well . This however didnt take place not to mention him being married also complicated things . But with all its situations they vowed to stay together . Their were numerous times when he cheated and she found out and he would always either lie or talk his way around it . She felt betrayed and used but continued to allow the behavior because she loved him so much . It hurt so much because she struggled financially and felt he could have given her the money he used on other women to ease some of her burden . Over the years this behavior continued repeatedly . She accepted it and continued to enable him to hurt her .
This was not an ordinary relationship by any means they shared many things such as friends , family and aquired a certian amount of respect among there peers all the while keeping his marital status a secret . They became very resourceful in figuring out ways to spend holidays and time together without short changing there families . They enjoyed many outings and took Holidays together quite often . Over the years there relationship became very intense and promises of togetherness where being made . He realized making sacrifices for her was the only way the two of them could be together . He tapered down his activities with other women began lying less and became more open to making her a bigger part of his life . Through the many talks they shared and the love they made he made her beleive there was hope for them to be together . She began putting things in motion to allow them to take place on her end so that when he was ready there would be nothing standing in there way . Everything was set on her end and the day had come when he could prove to her that she was everything to him and that his promise of love and togetherness meant everything to him .
That did not happen , he did not make good on his promise and was not even man enough or respected her enough to face her but rather followed it up with a brief phone call telling her he was just using her all along and for her to not contact him ever again . She loved and resected him enough through all of that to not infringe upon his wishes . He knew her well enough to know she would not intrude .
She was devestated ! This was the begining of what her family calls the downward spiral that now has her laying in bed in the fetal position . This once very attractive lady who's hair and make up were always done to perfection , who's clothes defined her and made her stick out in a crowd and who's hygiene was impeccable but is now less then desirable to the the least desirable person Her family also says this man has no clue what this has done to her and how it has effected her children , children he once expressed concern for . Not to mention the love he shared with her . He has removed himself from her life obsolved himself of any resonsibility for the conditon he has left them in This behavior from a man that many ladies and fellow hobbiest in the sex industry viewed as a true gentleman and who was respected by ALL ? There is more to being a man / gentleman then bearing gifts , opening doors , pulling out chairs and making promises . It is hard to respect others when you dont respect yourself first . It's hard to love others when you dont love yourself first .
Beware ladies that you dont let this happen to you ! We always hear of the pitfalls and woes of us men being taken advantage of by the ladies out there but rarely is it ever told what happens when one of us men takes advantage of a women . This behavior is uncalled for and yet it could be any one of us as most if not all of us consider ourselves to be respectful and a gentleman . As for this MAN and you know who you are ( and I use the term losely ) shame on you for using someone who gave up everything for you and for not making good on your promises !
Interviewer : Jack
This an item I found on another board. I have some reservations about it but will see what others think.
This is a story told by an interviewer about " What can happen when you fall in love with a client or he falls in love with you "
She lay in bed in the fetal position in the mental ward of a hospital which has now become what she would call her home . It was hard to believe this was the same person I had just met and interviewed a few short months before When we first met I found her to be a happy perky lady with loads of self esteem and confidence, with very few hang ups and issues to overcome . She attributed her success in her business and personal life to a man who once paid her to have sex with him . Yes she was an escort and he was her client and they fell deeply in love or so she thought ?
They met at a sex industry function and felt an immediate attraction to eachother and exchanged contact information so that they could hook up . To her surprise he began emailing her regularly always very complimentary with lots of hugs and kisses attached . Flattered she told me she would always reply back to him .The emails continued but he wanted more communication between them and asked if he could meet her in a chat room where they could talk in private and sometimes for hours on end . Soon that didnt seem enough and phone numbers were exchanged and shortly after that they had what appeared to be there first date . He arrived bearing gifts , she said this was something that was unusual on a first date but did happen on occasion . She kissed him on the cheek to thank him for being so thoughtful . Little did either of them know this date would change them both forever with many more escort dates to follow and many non paying dates when she retired to be with him .
As time went by she realized that in order to hold on to him she would need to give up the escorting and there was nothing she wanted more then him so she retired to please him . This sacrifice caused huge financial change for her and her children and the demise of what seemed to be a perfect relationship between the two of them . She now had to learn to live and raise her family on a very limited budget with no help from him . They agreed in order for it to work they would both have to be exclusive to eachother which meant he would have give up this hobby as well . This however didnt take place not to mention him being married also complicated things . But with all its situations they vowed to stay together . Their were numerous times when he cheated and she found out and he would always either lie or talk his way around it . She felt betrayed and used but continued to allow the behavior because she loved him so much . It hurt so much because she struggled financially and felt he could have given her the money he used on other women to ease some of her burden . Over the years this behavior continued repeatedly . She accepted it and continued to enable him to hurt her .
This was not an ordinary relationship by any means they shared many things such as friends , family and aquired a certian amount of respect among there peers all the while keeping his marital status a secret . They became very resourceful in figuring out ways to spend holidays and time together without short changing there families . They enjoyed many outings and took Holidays together quite often . Over the years there relationship became very intense and promises of togetherness where being made . He realized making sacrifices for her was the only way the two of them could be together . He tapered down his activities with other women began lying less and became more open to making her a bigger part of his life . Through the many talks they shared and the love they made he made her beleive there was hope for them to be together . She began putting things in motion to allow them to take place on her end so that when he was ready there would be nothing standing in there way . Everything was set on her end and the day had come when he could prove to her that she was everything to him and that his promise of love and togetherness meant everything to him .
That did not happen , he did not make good on his promise and was not even man enough or respected her enough to face her but rather followed it up with a brief phone call telling her he was just using her all along and for her to not contact him ever again . She loved and resected him enough through all of that to not infringe upon his wishes . He knew her well enough to know she would not intrude .
She was devestated ! This was the begining of what her family calls the downward spiral that now has her laying in bed in the fetal position . This once very attractive lady who's hair and make up were always done to perfection , who's clothes defined her and made her stick out in a crowd and who's hygiene was impeccable but is now less then desirable to the the least desirable person Her family also says this man has no clue what this has done to her and how it has effected her children , children he once expressed concern for . Not to mention the love he shared with her . He has removed himself from her life obsolved himself of any resonsibility for the conditon he has left them in This behavior from a man that many ladies and fellow hobbiest in the sex industry viewed as a true gentleman and who was respected by ALL ? There is more to being a man / gentleman then bearing gifts , opening doors , pulling out chairs and making promises . It is hard to respect others when you dont respect yourself first . It's hard to love others when you dont love yourself first .
Beware ladies that you dont let this happen to you ! We always hear of the pitfalls and woes of us men being taken advantage of by the ladies out there but rarely is it ever told what happens when one of us men takes advantage of a women . This behavior is uncalled for and yet it could be any one of us as most if not all of us consider ourselves to be respectful and a gentleman . As for this MAN and you know who you are ( and I use the term losely ) shame on you for using someone who gave up everything for you and for not making good on your promises !
Interviewer : Jack
