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superman2006

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You can skip the meet & greet if you just wanna get it on and hangout at their place or yours (I've done this at times) and see how long the PPM includes, but last thing I wanna do is drop $300 or more and be around someone for like 4 hours who I don't jive with or the intimacy lacks chemistry. Usually over text/chat you can get a feel about the vibe, so it depends on the physical connection. People do lie or say things they are into over text then in person don't live up to it. I've experienced that in the dating world too. Seeing a SP for a HH and seeing how that goes and going back to seeing her again works a lot better at times. If you're bunny hopping seeing 2 or 3 SBs in a month and just not enjoying the experience I find that adds up more than a SP hopping. Both have their hit and miss lol.
I never skip m&g and I think what separates SB from SP is the chemistry connection before the deed. But now there are too many so called SB just want to get the deed done and collect $$$.
 
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superman2006

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Yeah that's where you have to be careful. She could take the funds for 3 or 4 hours then say after you finishing once or maybe twice that she's tired or has a headache and you take a huge L there compared to seeing a SP for HH or H. She might not wanna like cuddle up for a bit and watch something with you or whatever else. In a situation like that I'd wanna give funds afterwards so if the timeframe is less you should be able to negotiate, but it all depends on their attitude too. I haven't experienced that, but I have heard a few stories especially if funds were given first.
here’s my routine - I take the girl out for bar hopping and we make out , then we watch a movie at her or my places, making out then proceeded with the deeds. I usually hand her the cash just before we get in bed.
 
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superman2006

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When it's a SB I always give funds just before her or I are leaving whoever's place. This way if the agreement is hangout each time for a few hours and things are turning into a hour or less I'd bring up the PPM should be less then cause the timeframe changed. Allowance should also be given at the end so if it's weekly give it end of the week. Most jobs don't pay you ahead of time. You could in terms of an allowance give a little bit ahead of time as a gesture and the remaining balance after similar to giving someone a small tip that generally does go a long way.
I prefer ppm before getting into a weekly allowance, btw some chick just asked for 1k/ppm saying she’s so hot so she’s worth it😂
 
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I'm having the same experience with SB and it's looks like a scam. I have the girls the I liked message me and after unlocking and replying. I would get general responses. a little bit after the chat goes dead. any luck with meeting any of the girls? I have my doubts thinking it's bots
Yeah, that's the whole problem with Secret Benefits (and the other sites they own). You must buy credits to read messages, view private photos, etc. All the sites probably inflate the numbers of members a bit, but tricking guys into spending money to read bot messages is just evil.

https://www.reddit.com/r/sugarlifestyleforum/comments/1i4tzu3 https://www.reddit.com/r/sugarlifestyleforum/comments/126skvi
I'd rather stick with Seeking or SDM just because there's no incentive for them to send out a bunch of fake messages. SDM also charges the ladies to join as well so there's an incentive for them to hook-up with guys since it's costing them money to be on the site (that's why you see profiles saying "I don't have a paid account, send me your phone number")
 

MuffDiver

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I’ve just finished blowing through my credits on sugardaddy.ca
I am not impressed. Suspiciously young and good looking women not responding to messages… very fake vibe altogether. Felt like a trap.
I thought seeking was bad but this is another level
I'm questioning this site too, for the same reasons. The short "verified" video is a credits saver. Many huge looks differences between the pictures and the video. Likely deleting my account once my remaining 70 credits get used.
 

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Shrug - I'm quite happy with SugarDaddy. Of course with my profile, most self-filter out and don't message me. For those 'that do', based on their profile I can determine if it's an auto-send or not. Most of the messages ARE only 1-2 responses but I assume it's because they gave 10 messages on the go and their closing in on the guy they've been talking with for the last few days.
 
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Shrug - I'm quite happy with SugarDaddy. Of course with my profile, most self-filter out and don't message me. For those 'that do', based on their profile I can determine if it's an auto-send or not. Most of the messages ARE only 1-2 responses but I assume it's because they gave 10 messages on the go and their closing in on the guy they've been talking with for the last few days.
Likewise. My success ratio on that site is pretty high. But I like milfs and 30-40 yr old divorcees. You guys can keep the vacuous 20 year olds and 25 yr old Insta model types.
 

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Likewise. My success ratio on that site is pretty high. But I like milfs and 30-40 yr old divorcees. You guys can keep the vacuous 20 year olds and 25 yr old Insta model types.
as some stand up comedian said (I am paraphrasing): I have a recipe how to always get laid when you are going out. The secret is: go to a bar just prior to 2am when everyone is already drunk and approach the ugliest fattest woman sitting alone at the bar. Ideally if she is limping or missing a leg.
 

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as some stand up comedian said (I am paraphrasing): I have a recipe how to always get laid when you are going out. The secret is: go to a bar just prior to 2am when everyone is already drunk and approach the ugliest fattest woman sitting alone at the bar. Ideally if she is limping or missing a leg.
Not sure what your point is ? I like what I like. I'm in my 50s. I don't like fucking 20 year olds because it makes me feel like a pedo.
Most of my life I've preferred women in their 30s, even when I was younger than that.
If that is the equivalent of fucking a one legged bbw in your opinion so be it.
 

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Not sure what your point is ? I like what I like. I'm in my 50s. I don't like fucking 20 year olds because it makes me feel like a pedo.
Most of my life I've preferred women in their 30s, even when I was younger than that.
If that is the equivalent of fucking a one legged bbw in your opinion so be it.
there was no particular point, in fact I am fixing to fuck a 35yo tonight so definitely nothing wrong with it, and I am hoping that she will be better in bed than a vacuous 20yo, although a one legged bbw probably would be even better :)
 
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superman2006

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Is sugardaddymeet good? I got referred to this site by one of the SPs I fucked
 

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Likewise. My success ratio on that site is pretty high. But I like milfs and 30-40 yr old divorcees. You guys can keep the vacuous 20 year olds and 25 yr old Insta model types.
Yep, this seems to be the case for most Sugar sites. The scams and bots live in a certain demographic range, they know a hot blonde coed is kryptonite for most of us.
 
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Likewise. My success ratio on that site is pretty high. But I like milfs and 30-40 yr old divorcees. You guys can keep the vacuous 20 year olds and 25 yr old Insta model types.
In the past, many of the SBs for me have been 30s, single moms or divorced. Kids are in school, need extra $ for the kids, etc... Plus they're great to talk with, they're relaxed and casual. The guys complaining need to appreciate that the girls are asking themselves, "why him" as well.
 
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Have you guys ever had drama from a SB ?
All SB says they are discreet but I have fear that they let secret out to the wife or SO.
Eventually when you see them more often they will know who you are.
I think I had the same fear with escorts but I realize now it’s their best interest to keep the encounter discrete
But is it the same for SBs?
 

Leimonis

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If you're seeing a SB while having a SO and such then always stick with an alias name and stick with a burner phone or something. Don't add her to any socials. Perhaps make some rules to the arrangement like her not taking pics of you together and typically meet at her place or hotels. I'd say most are pretty respectful if you're wanting discreet, but there's always that odd one lol. And if you're that concerned maybe show up using a rental vehicle to cover your butt. It can get pricier in that regards, but might be best to play it safe like that. And perhaps see one that's a 1, 2 or more hour drive away. You could always say things like you're here on business and live 5 hours away without saying where or lie where you reside. Tell her you actually live in America and are here on a work permit. You should also have your phone password locked if it's not and don't carry personal ID with when spending time together. Leave it hidden and locked away in the vehicle I suppose. It all depends on your fear of getting caught. I'd be taking a lot of precautionary measures if I was dealing with a SO & SB unless of course the SO was open with my lifestyle.
At this point masturbation seems like a pleasurable option 😂
 

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Have you guys ever had drama from a SB ?
All SB says they are discreet but I have fear that they let secret out to the wife or SO.
Eventually when you see them more often they will know who you are.
I think I had the same fear with escorts but I realize now it’s their best interest to keep the encounter discrete
But is it the same for SBs?
What? So they can tell the world that they're a SB as well? Don't be a dick and don't give them a reason to do anything.

Besides, if they do something and my wife divorces me, what now stops my from 'getting even'? Not much.
 
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RobI

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I might check SDM in a month or two. Do you have to verify yourself to join? I never have on SB. Is the verification also shown publicly compared to other pics you upload? I'm done with SB which has real ladies, but bots also. Back when I first joined about 5 years ago or so I figured it out easily cause when you had enough credit left for your last message or used the last one a few other ladies would msg you so you'd have to spend more to read those again. I've only clicked on secret pics once or twice and not worth it. Most recently I've noticed with SB is you'll get a msg and reply back and she'll reply back once more then ghost typically because it's a bot account. And it can be a new account that msged you say from Barrie. But after the bot/fake account stops msging you they also at times change their locaton say from Barrie to like Newmarket or where ever else. A few times in the search based their location I couldn't see their profile anymore unless I was blocked, but because I sent a msg you can still view their profile through the chat window even if they blocked you so at times I did see the location was changed. I even decided to put it to test to msging one person back who didn't of course just block me for no reason and said "So are you living here instead of there" and never got a reply back. Plus with SB I'm pretty sure it's still free for ladies to join and msg men on there for free. Wouldn't shock me if it's the same business model as AM with employees just creating fake accounts and luring guys to spend more.
I think SDM does now, but I'm not sure how much verification they do of the photo. I saw one girl's verified photo; it was her back to the camera, looking into a mirror lol
They also have some options, like a masquerade mask graphic you can add to your existing photo. Personally, I have one normal photo, and everything else is private.
The main thing is not to use photos you've used anywhere else, such as Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, etc. Keep photos very normal, like a casual corporate picture, so if it does get out someday, you can say someone stole it off a website.

Yes, you'll usually see their location and sometimes their current location doesn't match. I think a lot put somewhere bigger, like Toronto but they're actually in Pickering just for privacy.
 

RobI

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Have you guys ever had drama from a SB ?
All SB says they are discreet but I have fear that they let secret out to the wife or SO.
Eventually when you see them more often they will know who you are.
I think I had the same fear with escorts but I realize now it’s their best interest to keep the encounter discrete
But is it the same for SBs?
Yes, I've had some drama but mostly it's when things are ending (and she's not happy she's being replaced), or it's during the first meeting, where it becomes clear they're not there for the right reasons.
Also, avoid duos on the first meet, usually not as fun as it sounds, and you have two people to watch around your stuff lol

Two things to keep in mind to prevent problems down the road are: don't piss them off unnessassarily (ie. not paying them the agreed amount or something) and don't give them more information about you than you need to.
They don't need to know you're married, what your exact job is, how much you make, what your licence plate number is or where you live (especially if you're married). It's not just about them, but keep in mind that they might also have some lowlife friends who, at some point, might decide to rob your place.

Basically, don't make yourself a target or give them a reason to kill the golden goose (that's you btw)
 
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Leimonis

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Besides, if they do something and my wife divorces me, what now stops my from 'getting even'? Not much.
How is a married adulterer supposed to get even with an SB? Will you lodge a complaint with the College of Registered Sugar Babies?
 
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