Hello,
I hope Terb is treating you well so far! I just wanted to highlight that perhaps a change in perspective can begin at your choice of words which colour your mindset. It can be frustrating to perceive a lack of control, to feel inferior, lower, lesser, or be at a loss - but all of this is perception and all of it is relative. There was a very good post above about the actual attributes in a person (and I stress the word person, not necessarily a man) that are attractive to most others are confidence, humour, and genuinely giving a crap about how well you are sexually able to serve. It can be quite liberating once you stop taking things at a personal level.. and understand where your strengths are and what your unique value is! Once you understand that, others will begin to as well. If self-deprication, misery, defensiveness, and blame are your go-to familiar state, that will only attract the same in others. Start with Tony Robbins youtube videos! Move onto Marisa Peer.
Generally speaking, I do feel that women can be quite harsh on men who are trying hard to be gentlemen, but I do not blame any party as it's not their job to know how to react in a politically correct way to protect others' mental healths. Say, when a man approaches to court me or try to ask me for my number on the street - I often smile, say thank you, you have brightened my day, as a nod of encouragement to their attempt at gentlemanly ways, even in rejection. However, the men who do this often CAN do it because of practice and being okay with being rejected at the slight possible chance of being accepted. Evolutionarily speaking, that's how we're wired.
Honestly, these very strong words are only reminiscent of how I think of our heavy tax structure, but alas living in Canada is pretty damn good... and I just try to find ways to work around the system and the game rather than be an anarchist. #capitalisttuntilidie
